These two things can often feel at odds.
If I love myself the way I am, why change?
If there are parts of me that need to change, how can I love and accept myself right now?
Lately I’ve been feeling a of imposter syndrome and self-criticism, especially when I facilitate.
When I dig into, one thing I find is that I hold extremely high standards and expectations for myself. Nothing is ever good enough.
It’s both been how I have gotten extremely proficient at a few things in life, and it also seems like the enemy of my self-love project, to hold such a critical gaze on myself.
But I realized that this critical is just data.
Just a glimpse of how much better I could be.
So, I’ve been actively engaged of a process of accepting the fact that I’m never gonna live up to my own standards, and that it is actually beautiful and I can just relax into it.
And I’m kinda starting to love this part of me that’s never satisfied. It’s such an asset when I don’t identify with it. When I stop trying to earn my own love from performance, and actually love myself unconditionally, it feels easy to see myself critically as a true gift.
Because then it actually becomes an act of genuine self-love to critically engage with the manifestation of my most magnificent self.
The ability to be self-aware, self-critical, and self-loving is such a fucking superpower.
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